It’s been said that small talk is “conversation for the sake of conversation”.
Light and casual conversation
A polite way to connect with a stranger
However you want to describe it, I am not a fan.
I liken small talk to a plain rice cake. Bland, uninteresting, and not necessarily good for you anyways.
You are left feeling even more deprived than before, slightly irritated, and maybe a bit….dumb.
After 10+ years of working in retail, I’ve had enough small talk to fill the rest of my lifetime. See, retail culture expects you to have light, pointless exchanges with customers so you can appear more caring, attentive and welcoming. Ughhhhh….
You might be an introvert if: You work in retail and you’re always thinking “why can’t people just buy their shit and gooooooooo?”
I wish I could’ve worn a button saying “Unless there’s something major coming this way, we really don’t need to talk about the weather.”
And as I’m writing this, I’m thinking, “Gawwwd, I must sound so bitchy and anti-social. I must seem soooooo closed off. This is why quiet people get wrongly stereotyped as being mean or sad or stuck-up.”
But maybe what I wish people would understand about introverts like me is that we only have so much social energy.
Expending it on aimless chit chat is actually exhausting. I personally would rather spend it on talking about things that are –oh gosh– dare I say… a little more meaningful to each person in the conversation.
So in conclusion, I am super stoked that I don’t work in retail anymore. Also, love your quiet people for who they are, and be cool with them needing to have some space to recharge so they can have amazing conversations with you.