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Introvert Life | I’m Very Friendly

Today’s quote is inspired by…nature walks!

And being quiet on nature walks.

I really like the combination. You just get to be very observant.

I’m like an expert animal spotter because I’ve got a lot of experience just walking around and not talking.

I’m like,

What’s that rustle in the grass? Oh! It’s a snake! Whaddup snake?! 

What’s that movement beyond the trees! It’s a deer! Hi deer! 

And of course I’m a dork and I have to say hello to these wild animals. As if they care.

Maybe I say hello because I know they don’t care. Which means, they are not judging you. And also because I think they are really cool.

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Introvert Life | I’m Actually Very Funny

Inspired by… the double lives that many introverts feel they live.

At work or school they are quiet, loathe group projects, don’t seem to care much for social interaction, and might even seem a little…strange.

But when they are around a group of trusted people, sending something out to their online tribe, or simply just writing, they are gregarious, clever and witty.

Maybe it’s super-bold to say I am clever and witty, but I am in this camp.

I think a lot of people misunderstand this.

We’ve been told: “You just lack confidence“, or we are encouraged to interject often with “something interesting to say“.

Enter feelings of inadequacy. Oh! And here comes her friend, saying something weird because you were still observing and processing the situation, but felt pressured to engage before you were ready.

She’s a B. 

So my dear fellow weirdoes, fear not. There are people out there that get you. We’ve been there before, and we’ll probably go there again.

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Introvert Life | Love you, but…

Today’s words are inspired by…motherhood.

If you don’t already know, I am a work-from-home mama to a precocious toddler dude. He can be ridiculously funny and astonishingly smart, which makes me love my time with him. However, being with him for most of my waking hours can be a challenge.

My husband is great about getting him out of my hair when I need to buckle down and get stuff done. But if they just hang around the house, it feels like…

Well, let me put it in work-outside-the-home terms:

It’s like, being on a really long break…in the break room. You can do what you want, but ya can’t totally escape the environment of your workplace. For example, my kid pulling on me, whining about something, or trying to climb in my lap and pound at my computer.

So as much as I adore him, it’s necessary for my allover health to have periods of solitude away from him. It enables me to do the creative work that I love, and I appreciate our days together even more.

Holla at me if you can relate, Mama!  

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Introvert Life | Something To Remember

Here’s a little pick-me-up for us introverts that get overcrowded and misunderstood in an extroverted world. You don’t have to change your personality in order to be awesome.

As a kid, I probably would have never responded anything like this. I was always being told I was “shy” and “too quiet”. And that made me feel insecure.

But as an adult, I’m just not willing to give a f*ck anymore about what people say about me (it helps A LOT if you are a stay-at-home mom who mostly interacts with a toddler).

But honestly, I think it’s healthier this way. As a person that spends a lot of time listening and thinking, I don’t want to dwell on other people’s potentially hurtful perceptions of me. Plain and simple, I’d rather just use that mental energy on something else.

So next time someone proclaims there’s something not right with how “quiet” you are, shrug it off and tell them you just don’t need any of that noise.

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Introvert Life | Let’s Talk About Small Talk

It’s been said that small talk is “conversation for the sake of conversation”.

Light and casual conversation 

A polite way to connect with a stranger 

However you want to describe it, I am not a fan.

I liken small talk to a plain rice cake. Bland, uninteresting, and not necessarily good for you anyways.

You are left feeling even more deprived than before, slightly irritated, and maybe a bit….dumb.

After 10+ years of working in retail, I’ve had enough small talk to fill the rest of my lifetime. See, retail culture expects you to have light, pointless exchanges with customers so you can appear more caring, attentive and welcoming. Ughhhhh….

You might be an introvert if: You work in retail and you’re always thinking “why can’t people just buy their shit and gooooooooo?”

Amirite?

I wish I could’ve worn a button saying “Unless there’s something major coming this way, we really don’t need to talk about the weather.” 

And as I’m writing this, I’m thinking, “Gawwwd, I must sound so bitchy and anti-social. I must seem soooooo closed off. This is why quiet people get wrongly stereotyped as being mean or sad or stuck-up.”

But maybe what I wish people would understand about introverts like me is that we only have so much social energy.

Expending it on aimless chit chat is actually exhausting. I personally would rather spend it on talking about things that are –oh gosh– dare I say… a little more meaningful to each person in the conversation.

So in conclusion, I am super stoked that I don’t work in retail anymore. Also, love your quiet people for who they are, and be cool with them needing to have some space to recharge so they can have amazing conversations with you.

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Friday Funnies | Realistically Speaking …

As a consummate introvert, I am prone to being in my head quite a bit.

When I have a goal, I’m not like “okay, I’m gonna do this!”

It’s more like… “okay – I have to figure out how to do this, step-by-step, study up on how other people get it done, get everything organized, so I can start getting to my goal.”

And then I get overwhelmed and it’s not an exciting or enjoyable goal anymore.

I’ve gotten better at not doing this, but thusly — here is a common story of my life:

So carpe that fucking diem! When you’re ready…of course.

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